Writing References If you meet someone and fuck, wouldn’t it be nice to write them a reference? Wouldn’t it be nice if people wrote a glowing report for you? There are some swingers web sites which have a function similar to this, but many don’t. Granted, I could just make up a bunch of stuff about myself and hand it to you, but if people felt comfortable signing their name, a few details about how you met, and their phone number, it would be easy for your possible partners to verify the review. This invokes a point of concern many people have regarding attending parties. They worry someone… Pročitajte više

I firmly believe the age of legal consent for sex should be 14 in all of the United States and 16 be the legal age for performing in adult videos, on stage, and as a prostitute. The fear, insecurity, jealousy, possessiveness, shame, etc. inculcated by the patriarchal christian church have compelled an obedience to the unjust demand for monogamy and delayed sex. This has created an environment where a supposed protection of our c***dren from sexual predators in fact places them in greater danger, while stalling their growth as happy, sexually well people. If you have a f******n year old daugh… Pročitajte više

Vagina? Pussy? Cunt? Slut? Whore? Speaking as a man, a woman can pretty much call me anything she wants. I’m blessed to serve her pleasure, and experience the state of spiritual ecstasy I enter when I make her cum. It has been my experience however, that women have a wide variety of vocabulary they prefer. I once dated a lady who loved creampie gang bang and who had an ethic which prevented her from leaving until she made every cock present cum at least once. During every fuck, she would scream at the top of her lungs “Jack off in my Cunt!” She was far from clinical in her use of sex languag… Pročitajte više

I graduated high school in 1980. As soon as we got out of high school a female friend of mine had gender re-assignment surgery to male, and a male friend to female. I was thrilled for them. My high school was very unusual, extremely progressive for its time, and we all thought it was great. As a strictly heterosexual man who was raised in a society where man parts meant you were a man and woman parts made you a woman, this got me to wondering if I would be willing to fuck a fully post-op trans woman–a term which didn’t even exist at the time. I never felt it was a bad thing, but the idea mad… Pročitajte više

I find monogamy abnormal, unhealthy, and unnatural. As such, I believe a monogamous relationship requires more attention and maintenance than a non-monogamous relationship. The eternal monotony of monogamy will inevitably lead to straying eyes, and almost certainly straying genitals. Your spirit, heart, mind, and body comprehend the fundamental need to fuck, and to be absolutely non-monogamous. Fucking is never cheating. Never. Lying is cheating. Should you make the terrible error of agreeing to a monogamous relationship, then fuck someone else, you are cheating. You are cheating by lying, n… Pročitajte više

I have, fortunately, been one of Her many cocks in a creampie gang bang for several Ladies. Though I’m happy say I’ve been involved in a few dozen, I regret that number is not much higher. With luck, that is a shortage I will be allowed account for. As a strictly heterosexual man who is extremely oral, I will do my best be one of Her cocks who enjoys the privilege of providing Her oral prior the fucking. This is not say I’m in any way shy about getting other men’s cum *on* me, it’s just not going in my mouth. I’ll be first in line if no other cock takes the initiative, but I much prefer be c… Pročitajte više

Respect and honesty are important in our everyday lives. When two or more people are developing an interest in swinging, they are tantamount. Whether you are meeting for the first time, or have been married for decades, open, clear, and complete communication is critical your happiness moving forward. Coercion is utterly unacceptable, counterproductive, and will destroy your relationship. It often leads one partner, usually the female in a male/female relationship, relent and live a lifestyle they find unsatisfying and degrading. Swinging is a lifestyle all about consent, pleasure, and happi… Pročitajte više

In the swinger world, you are worth your weight in gold. Known as a “unicorn,” you are a “magical creature no one will ever meet.” Couples, single women, and single men all want you, and you will never lack for friends old and new to play with. That said, there are still important things of which to be mindful. Bathe: Everyone in the swinging lifestyle wants everyone to be clean, and poor hygiene will limit your play opportunities no matter how otherwise attractive you are. Be Kind: Physical beauty alone is not sufficient to be truly attractive. Everyone wants you, and everyone has the righ… Pročitajte više

Swinging has long been largely about couples playing with couples, and quite often looking for an extra lady to join in on the fun. However, don’t be discouraged. More and more, couples are seeking single men to play with the wife while the husband watches, and sometimes videos. I have been the “other man” many times. Typically, the husband was present and watching, although one couple had a girlfriend. The husband would go play with her while I spent the evening or weekend with the wife. Many times I have also been one of the men for a lady’s creampie gang bang. It is imperative to be mindf… Pročitajte više

Given the normal, natural, and joyful nature of swinging, a great of people are drawn the lifestyle. Unfortunately there are barriers to getting involved. One primary barrier is the bitter jealousy of most of society who wish they had a better and more expansive sex life, and are therefore hostile those who do. Another substantial barrier is simply communicating the desire one’s spouse or partner. Herein lies trepidation. What if they are angry, disgusted with you, demand a divorce, reveal the congregation what a terrible person you are? what extent are you willing allow other peoples’s preju… Pročitajte više

I believe it is important to have a fuck buddy phone list, and we should all develop one. Fundamentally, it reinforces the sheer practicality of spontaneous gratification of lust, and further ingrains anti-monogamy into our hearts, minds, and lives. We create and maintain such lists for neighborhood emergencies, barbeques, and PTA meetings, why not fucking? Let’s say a lady wakes up extremely horny. While she busies herself around the house, or at the office, she just can’t keep her hands off her clit. This is a perfectly normal, powerful, and wonderful need. She decides to gather some cocks… Pročitajte više

Many people mistakenly believe polyamory and swinging are the same lifestyle. While a person can be both polyamorous and a swinger, they are distinct lifestyle choices. In a polyamorous relationship, a person may be in love with another, and maintain a romantic, long-term relationship with them. During this relationship, one and/or the other of these may develop the same type of relationship with another person. Both polyamory and swinging are distinctly non-monogamous lifestyles. However, polyamory is specifically about multiple romantic relationships, whereas swinging is focused on sex wit… Pročitajte više

My Sweet Unicorn, Lady of my Unrealized Dreams. Are you Her? Shall we ever meet? Alas. In any case, who is my ideal woman? Kindness is the foundation. Compassion and genuine caring for people is essential to the Lady I would love. Be aware, of course, for many are those who would use and abuse. Attentive compassion is key. Next, I value intelligence. I have no concern my Lady Love be a genius, nor college educated, I can give or take in those regards. I just hope for fun and interesting conversation. Finally, there must be sufficient physical attraction. As I have addressed in other posts… Pročitajte više

In our day to day lives, we do not, with very rare exception, have the right to interact with another in any manner without their consent. In the Swinging lifestyle, this is an absolute. You must not have contact with another, nor them with you, without consent. Consent is fairly easy to interpret, and lack thereof even more so. A polite “No thank you,” will suffice. Now, for the question “Why not?” This is a non-question, because no rationale is needed. “No” simply means “no.” The request is to be made courteously, the acceptance or denial as well, and the response to denial is to be espe… Pročitajte više

As a corollary to what I wrote in my post “The Feminine Divine,” I would like to point out I am in no way a cuckold, or sissy, man. I am entirely masculine. I generally have sex with a woman as an equal, and can be dominant if she desires. I have never been in a situation with a married lady who has a cuckold husband, but I am confident I would be entirely comfortable. Many people mistakenly believe a dominant, or Dom, is fully in charge of a dominant/submissive relationship and, therefore, the submissive, or Sub, is entirely helpless. In reality, both are receiving the gratification they nee… Pročitajte više

I am committed to what I call the Feminine Divine. While this is an aspect of my overall spirituality, it also is the entirety of it. As a baseline, my ethic is to make ladies cum. If I am at a swingers party, having sex with various women throughout the evening, I cum in each one, ensuring she cums as well. If I am in line for a lady’s gang bang, I certainly cum in her, since that is an essential part of her enjoyment, and do my best to make her cum during my turn. However, if I am one on one with a wife, I have trained myself to not ejaculate, unless she wishes me to, of course. I still cu… Pročitajte više

As far as my personal experience goes, I have sworn myself numerous times I would never again put myself in a position suffer monogamy. Then, I would do so. Inevitably, these relationships have failed. As I write this, I am less than a week from my fifty eighth birthday, and far too endure another. I would rather spend the rest of my life sexless than monogamous, though hopefully such an extreme will not be necessary. I believe monogamy, from the spiritual, the biological, and the ethical, is not only unnatural and unhealthy, but also simply wrong. I feel it is rare be completely in love with… Pročitajte više